I havent blogged in a while so I thought I would write. As most of you know Dorin and I have hit a rough patch in our relationship. I have felt very insecure lately about how involved Kristen makes herself in Dorins family. Now, dont get my wrong, its not like she hangs out with us and goes on family outings with us, but whenever there is the SLIGHTEST problem in her life, she runs to Dorins family and tells them all about it. I personally do not think this is an appropriate behavior at all. Dorin on the other hand cant stand her and doesnt care what she tells him and his family because he simply doesnt care. But it has definately started to take a toll on me.
When you dream about your life with your husband and family, that dream never includes having to deal with a woman that wants to be back in the family dramatically. She has SO many "problems", and lets Dorins family know about each and every one of them. She has been to the hospital more than 10 times in the past couple months for various reasons. My personal opinion is the root of her going Dr. shopping and going to hospitals is to get painkillers, I think this because she has told me this in the past.
I have realized that Dorin and I need to work on our communication. We came to a point a couple days ago where we pretty much ended our relationship....but when I woke up the next morning my life just didnt feel right. Im always the kind of person who believes the grass is greener on the other side, but I have realized with Dorin that the grass may not be bright green, but it could be alot worse too. I had a really hard day yesterday (after we had talked and made up and everything the day before) and I went to his house and he just held me for about an hour and just talked to me about everything (which had nothing to do with our problems). He was so positive and uplifting, and in that moment, I realized that HE is who I want and need. Yes, we have communication issues sometimes, and yes, I have doubts sometimes, but at the end of the day, he is the person who I want to come home to.....forever.
Kristen and Jody will always be in my life, I understand that. But, there is always bad that comes with the good. Is dealing with Kristen and Jody a deal breaker for Dorins and my relationship? NO. Im a strong woman who can and will deal with it. Dorin knows how I feel now and has been very sensitive about it since we talked.
I have realized with men, that it helps the absolute most when you tell them DIRECTLY step by step what you need from them. It has never worked for me to hint around and tip toe around what I need, being direct and honest has ALWAYS gotten me the best results.
Dorin starts his new job today, and Im so excited to finally be able to look ahead to getting our OWN place together again, I think that will help the situation alot too, because Jody wont be there to answer the phone when Kristen calls, talk to her about all the drama, get off the phone and then talk to us about all of it for the next 4 hours. Kristen will quickly learn that when she calls Dorin and my house, there will be no talking about HER. Its going to be short, to the point, and ALWAYS ONLY about the only thing that even keeps her in our lives, Tanner. I know she wont like it because she wants the attention and wants to feel like Dorin and his family still care about her, but she is going to have to get over that. Im the woman in Dorins life, she had her chance but she blew it by cheating on him. She needs to realize that her chance is long gone, and that there is NO option of her trying to be close with OUR family.
Okay well, just wanted to update.
Still Goin' Strong. He is Amazing.
